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UNDERSTANDING WHAT DOMESTIC VIOLENCE IS

Domestic violence has certain similarities to other forms of family violence; such as child abuse, child-to-parent violence, sibling violence or elderly abuse; it has certain unique characteristics that make it distinct. Domestic violence distorts what is supposed to be a partnership based on mutual respect. Neither partner has a legitimate role in disciplining or controlling the other. When domestic violence permeates a relationship, the abuser and victim no longer share equal rights and responsibilities within the partnership.

THE ROLE OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE PROGRAMS


There are more than 100 domestic violence shelters and support programs throughout Missouri; however, fewer than half of the state's 114 counties have emergency shelters. Consequently, domestic violence program staff are accustomed to using creative and inventive approaches to providing services in a variety of settings. Most women don't need emergency shelter, but they do need someone to talk to beyond office hours. Almost all can benefit from the common ground found in a support group.
The majority of domestic violence shelters and service providers have toll-free numbers that allow them to serve multiple counties so they can help create safety plans, offer support, and provide court advocacy and other resource information - even from a distance. Some programs have outreach staff who can work with victims to make plans for obtaining services in their communities. When working to meet the needs of women and their children, there is more to be gained by working together than anyone can do by working alone.

FOUR TYPES OF ABUSE

Abuse can take on many forms. Some types are more subtle than others and might never be seen or felt by anyone other than the woman experiencing the abuse. The abuser uses a combination of tactics that work to control the victim. The abuse also usually increases in frequency and severity over time
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PHYSICAL ABUSE
Physical abuse is easier to recognize and understand than other types of abuse. It can be indicated when the batterer:

SEXUAL VIOLENCE AND ABUSE
Sexual violence and abuse can be extraordinarily difficult for victims to talk about because of the ways in which this type of violence often is perpetrated. Sexual violence or abuse can be indicated when the batterer:

PSYCHOLOGICAL ABUSE
It is the abuser’s use of physical and sexual force or threats that gives power to his psychologically abusive acts. Psychological abuse becomes an effective weapon in controlling a victim, because she knows through experience that her abuser will at times back up the threats or taunts with physical assaults. Psychological abuse can be indicated when the batterer:

ECONOMIC ABUSE
Economic abuse can be indicated when the batterer:

QUIZ: How is your Relationship?(click here to take quiz)

PERSONAL SAFETY TIPS:

No one deserves to be abused. If things get out of hand, it's good to have a plan!

WHEN A FIGHT BREAKS OUT

IF YOU DECIDE TO LEAVE YOUR PARTNER, PLAN FOR SAFETY

WAYS TO STAY SAFE ON YOUR OWN